now could you kindly cut to the chase..

kaylaistattooed:

lorettalee:

minus84:

-everykissbeginswithkay:

minus84:

beaarthursghost:

megadelicious:

sheshalf:

gareth-bales-peen:

palopoli:

This photo was taken the night I was raped.

March 20, 2010.

The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends.

The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home.

I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped.

I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.

I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it.

Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps.

You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong.

I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too.

-Annabella

it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space.

maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”.

AAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!THE FUCK!?!?! so if I place my hand on a guy’s chest then it’s okay for him to rape me? fuck no. you’re an idiot.

That comment made me fucking livid. I kissed my attacker does that mean I was fucking asking for it? No. No one is asking for it otherwise it would be called CONSENSUAL SEX. I’m so fucking tired of seeing victim blaming on this website. 
ITS NOT OKAY FOR SOMEONE TO TOUCH YOU WITHOUT CONSENT.

WEARING PROVOCATIVE CLOTHING AND BEING FLIRTY IS NOT ASKING SOMEONE TO FUCK YOU.

FOR FUCK SAKES

AUGH.

Who knows, maybe it wouldnt have happened had he not gotten the idea from the flirting? 

I dont think anyone says its the victims fault, I mean Id be a victim if I went and stood out in the street and got hit by a car, but afterward if someone said “hey, maybe dont stand in the street and that wouldnt happen” I wouldnt say OMG VICTIM BLAMING ME STANDING IN THE STREET IS NOT CONSENT FOR SOMEONE TO HIT ME.

Theres a statistic saying a large percentage of rape is commited by someone the victim knows, maybe you should stop hanging around rapists, all im sayin.

“Stop hanging around rapists?”  What?

Standing in front of traffic and being raped by a friend are not the fucking same thing.

I just…  Fuck.  You lost a follower today, minus84.

Im just saying, partying with rapists and then letting them drive you home later is a recipe for a bad night.

…because she was to know he was a rapist. 

ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW ARE YOU FUCKING KIDDING ME RIGHT NOW?

I don’t even know why there is a debate about this topic, NO ONE ASKS TO GET RAPED. Let me tell you something, I am sure going into this evening of fun and flirting that this girl had NO IDEA that this guy was capable of RAPING HER. No one man or woman sees a rape coming and lets it happen for the sake of letting it happen.

So what if her hand is on him? You’re saying women aren’t allowed to flirt without expecting to have that man fuck her without her consent?

If your fucking piece of shit theory is correct then how the hell is she even suppose to enter any sort of fucking relationship with a man? If she does not flirt or talk to him? Get to know him? Express her feelings of attraction. 

Maybe she was attracted to him, maybe she liked him, maybe after that night she had hopes to go on a date with him. 

And then those dreams were dashed the moment he stuck his fucking penis in her vagina and she didn’t want it there.

There’s a big difference between standing in the middle of a road and getting hit by a car and raped.

I don’t care if a woman is standing in front of a guy winking, a short skirt, no panties, heels, and a low cut crop top that reads, “I swallow.” Until she has made it clear to that man that she wants to have sex with him or engage in any sort of sexual physical behavior (YOU KNOW CONSENT AS AN ADULT) he better not put a hand on her in a sexual manner at all.

I don’t care if a woman is butt naked and on top of a guy if she decides in that moment before intercourse that she wants to stop and go no further then that’s her choice and it should be respected and he should not attempt to go further.

A woman can have sex with a man consensually MANY times but the moment she decides not to or is unable to consent and he still has sexual relations with her that’s rape.

Women can be raped by their husbands, boyfriends, fiances, lovers, strangers, teachers, family members, they don’t hang out with rapist they get hurt by people they trust and people they don’t know.

So how about before you open your big mouth about how she shouldn’t blame her attacker how about you remember his penis entering her body, and if you had a vagina how you would feel with someone INSIDE YOU that you did not want there. How about you remember that he is an ATTACKER and she was ATTACKED VIOLENTLY.

Rape is not about sex it’s about violence.

RAPE IS NOT SOMETHING YOU ASK FOR.

RAPE IS A CRIME.

Seriously, this kind of talks makes me disgusted with people.

It’s not their fault and I commend her for being strong he’s lucky she was decent enough to blur his face, A RAPIST deserves to be punished for what he has done and she has every right to heal and tell the world her story so that she may move on.

FUCK YOU AND YOUR RAPE CULTURE.

Edit: Additional Feelings - I am really livid about this post. The fact people feel this way, you know women who are raped go through so many things and most never say a word in silence suffering their entire lives their attackers going free to possibly hurt others because of that stigma. You wouldn’t look down at a murder or attempted murder victim and say, hey he deserved it for opening the door to his attacker would you? No. Why treat a living breathing survivor of a horrific event any different. Rape is just as violent, many women who fight back are killed, many rapist kill their victims so they won’t speak. Again it’s not sex (sex is passion, pleasure, and sometimes love) so please stop looking at it in that way.

I hate when people assume that men are the only ones who are capable of rape. Women are rapists too not just men.

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